Thanks for sharing Rosie. I think talking about sex in our society is still stuck in 1970. Sex is a natural human urge/desire. IMO a marriage has lots of moving parts and a few key ones- intimacy is a big part of that, or at least for me it is. I was married/together with my ex for 28 years before we divorced. I drank for the first 20 years of the relationship and sober for the last 8 years of it. I realized once I got sober the relationship had things that were never going to line up with my wants/desires and if I didn’t make a change I’d either drink again or be a dry drunk, neither of which I wanted to do. I have spent a lot of time on this specific subject and what roll it plays in my life. I’ve learned a lot and I’ve learned that it’s ok that I enjoy sex and lots of it with the right person. I used to be embarrassed that I was wired this way but I now view it as a positive not a negative. Took me over 10 years in sobriety to work this out though.
Thanks for always sharing so vulnerably Rosie. I’m sure your story will resonate with me - I don’t think it’s unusual but definitely not talked about enough. Sex can be such a complicated thing, both in conversation and in the actual act. I know I wrestle with it too. Sending love 🫶🏼🫶🏼
Thanks for sharing Rosie. I think talking about sex in our society is still stuck in 1970. Sex is a natural human urge/desire. IMO a marriage has lots of moving parts and a few key ones- intimacy is a big part of that, or at least for me it is. I was married/together with my ex for 28 years before we divorced. I drank for the first 20 years of the relationship and sober for the last 8 years of it. I realized once I got sober the relationship had things that were never going to line up with my wants/desires and if I didn’t make a change I’d either drink again or be a dry drunk, neither of which I wanted to do. I have spent a lot of time on this specific subject and what roll it plays in my life. I’ve learned a lot and I’ve learned that it’s ok that I enjoy sex and lots of it with the right person. I used to be embarrassed that I was wired this way but I now view it as a positive not a negative. Took me over 10 years in sobriety to work this out though.
Thanks for always sharing so vulnerably Rosie. I’m sure your story will resonate with me - I don’t think it’s unusual but definitely not talked about enough. Sex can be such a complicated thing, both in conversation and in the actual act. I know I wrestle with it too. Sending love 🫶🏼🫶🏼