The Hidden Cost of Repressed Anger: Why Women Are Trained to Stay Silent

I grew up believing that my anger meant something was wrong with me. Enter:

"Would it be so hard to smile a little more?"

Anger is frowned upon, considered shameful, and included as one of the church's "Seven Deadly Sins." Girls are programmed to believe that anger is a sign of moral indescency. Weakness of character. An inability to control ourselves. A "too muchness." Religious or not, the cultural ideology around allowable emotions stunts our growth before we're old enough to run.

I used to think my anger meant I wasn't grateful enough. If I could just be good and thankful for everything I already had (a good husband, healthy kids, a nice house, a car, some spending money, paint and paper, a big backyard, and a retirement fund), the anger and recede and I could finally be like everyone else.

Blessedly I never was able to cash in.

Back then, I didn't know I had a choice. Now I know better.

As a girl, I worked hard to ignore the psychic smoke signals. I started obsessing about my weight at age 9 and bingeing and purging at 11. I had to create a distraction to silence my discontent with how things were.

I learned how to contain and command my physical body, hoping this would translate to my unkempt desires. Again and again, I returned to eating disorders as a means of coping with an inconvenient truth.

Women are made to cut off the wildest, most unruly parts of ourselves in favor of the collective. But which collective exactly does this serve? Show me. Did I choose it? Or was it chosen FOR me?

This attempt to control my inner world using my outer world followed me into motherhood. I drank to forget the sacrificial lamb of my dreams laid bare on the altar of my first child. The cultural prescription for dissatisfied mothers is this: Become a wine mom. It's the only way to survive.

I did. I excelled.

Why do you think alcohol is targeted at mothers? What is drinking if not a forgetting? An erasure of the urgency within us to make things different. They make the money. We stay the same.

What if I told you ...

The best way to push back [against the invisible system whose purpose is to keep us stuck] is to pull out: stop engaging.

Stop drinking. Stop consuming. Stop shrinking. Stop buying into the idea that you're not perfect exactly how you are. Today. Right now.

Peaceful Protest.

Reject the lie that beauty is your only worth. Stop putting your dreams on hold for the sake of your children. Right now, your children need to see you stepping into your power more than ever.

What if I told you, to change the world, you have to create a new world inside yourself. Build it out, bone by bone, gem by gem, anchor by anchor. A living Kaliedescope: On Your Terms.

Your outer world is a 3D printout of our interior world. What will you make of it?

Question everything. Don't settle. Don't settle. Don't settle.

Creativity is not a luxury. It is our birthright. Never forget that. We are creators. Just look at our bodies. Just close your eyes and feel your heart. Beating a nutrient river. Speaking a language only you can understand. We are creators. Made with love by the Creator, Herself.

What if anger isn't the enemy. What if anger is the torch that lights the way to Revolution?

This is precisely what we’re diving into on the 🎧 podcast 🎧 this week.

🎙 "The Myth of Bad Emotions: Why Anger is Your Greatest Tool for Change"

🔗 Listen here → [Episode 2]

Inside this episode, I share:

✔️ Why we've been conditioned to suppress anger (especially as women).

✔️ How avoiding emotions keeps us stuck in burnout, numbing, and self-doubt.

✔️ What anger is actually trying to tell you.

✔️ How to process anger so it stops controlling you—and starts to liberate you.

💭 Drop a 🔥 in the comments if this resonated. And tell me — what's one thing you've been afraid to say out loud?

We're running out of runway. It's pedal to the metal time babes.

Love you forever,

Rosie